It’s a brand-new month, and so during August we are shifting gears and talking about how culture (particularly church culture) depicts a man’s sexual nature. Are men really the way we tend to depict them sexually speaking? In other words… Do men only (or constantly) think about sex? Are men always wanting sex and women […]
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“Modest is hottest!” Thanks to youth pastors all across America and now Matthew West, this expression is likely familiar to your ears. But as author Alan Noble sarcastically points out, the statement is nonsensical. If modest were actually hottest then youth pastors and fathers with record deals would be encouraging their students and children to […]
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“And so seated next to my father in the train compartment, I suddenly asked, “Father, what is sex sin?” He turned to look at me, as he always did when answering a question, but to my surprise he said nothing. At last he stood up, lifted his traveling case off the floor and set it […]
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Conflict is inevitable. The determining factor for healthy relationships is not the absence of conflict but the ability to work through them. Many people battling addictions have trouble with conflict resolution. Rather than confronting an issue, one might look at porn as an escape or avoid it. In all the years, I’ve counseled or mentored […]
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They were going to kill me. Many years ago, a group of men caught me doing something terrible. As they dragged me away, sheer terror exploded through my body like lightning, because I knew they were going to kill me. More than that, I knew how men like these operated: they were going beat me […]
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Debilitating guilt. Difficult habits. Dehumanized marriage. You recognize the warning signs of sexual addiction because you have firsthand experience. While your story might not be something you’ve shared with everyone, you’ll notice that some people will need to hear it. You’ll find yourself wanting to guide them to the exit. Am I worthy to share […]
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Life would be so much easier if there were a big ole ‘recover from porn and masturbation addiction’ button lying around, wouldn’t it? I know given the chance, many of us would hit that baby so hard it would crush under our enthusiasm. Or maybe frustration is a better word… But alas, if it exists,… Read more »
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As porn addicts, one of the most important questions we need to ask ourselves is this: what do we want? – Do we want to stop looking at porn? – Do we want to not feel crappy about ourselves every waking moment anymore? – Do we want complete freedom? Most of us want all of… Read more »
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This month we’ve been exploring some of the common “permission based” questions we get from people on a weekly basis. Questions that quite honestly, don’t help anyone. If you are a woman, maybe you’re wondering if taking those sexy photos for your husband is okay during his recovery from porn or if it will trigger… Read more »
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We’ve all heard the arguments. Porn is bad in heavy doses but it can be helpful in small doses when couple use it “responsibly.” Even Dr. Drew has maintained this type of stance at times. Of course not everyone shares this opinion, so then we get into questions and debates that go something like this:… Read more »
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