About This Episode In today’s Whiteboard Session, Steven Luff, a licensed MFT (Marriage and Family Therapist) in the state of CA, co-author of Pure Eyes: a Man’s Guide to Sexual Integrity and creator of the X3Pure on-line recovery program, answers a question we get a lot: what’s behind my compulsive behavior and how do I… Read more »
When a couple gets married, they know a lot about one another. But their relationship winds up being built as much upon their lack of knowledge about one another as it is upon that existing knowledge. Couples walk into every marriage with a set of assumptions and expectations about their spouse that will inevitably bring… Read more »
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Loneliness sucks. It’s a feeling of isolation that can feel as debilitating as physical illness. There are many ways loneliness can manifest, and even more reasons why, but let’s talk about romantic loneliness: a lack of that special kind of intimacy that comes from a partner we all crave so deeply. Most people seek to… Read more »
Quitting masturbation isn’t easy–even veterans still have challenges in this area. But it is a battle you can win. Here are some practical ideas that have helped me: 1. Have Healthy Outlets Masturbators are energetic, creative, and passionate people who have a lot to offer. Find healthy places where you can take that energy and… Read more »
Webster’s defines oxymoron as “a combination of contradictory or incongruous words.” Here are a few of my favorite: Freezer burn, pretty ugly, loose tights, soft rock, numb feeling, minor crisis, only choice, growing smaller, random order, jumbo shrimp, and quite possibly the most wickedly ingenious phrase ever devised by evil marketers and foisted upon unsuspecting consumers like us:… Read more »
Do you really want to know how to help your spouse the most during his or her recovery from porn addiction? Work on your own recovery. Sounds kind of backward, doesn’t it? Well, it isn’t. In fact, it is the exact thing that you need to do at this exact moment in your life. The… Read more »
Honeymoons seem to be both the most precious but underwhelming experience of married life. From my own experience, and countless stories I’ve heard, there’s something deeply sacred about beginning a marriage, but the actual honeymoon experience can be somewhat disheartening. Sharing space and sex with another human often isn’t what young couples expect, and it’s… Read more »
“John” came into the counseling office looking very despondent. “I don’t understand what happened this week,” he said. “’Jane’ had been doing so well and I have not seen her angry in more than a month. Then she just exploded. Crying, throwing things, cursing at me. I thought we were good. What happened?” “John” is… Read more »
If there’s one topic that freaks Christians out the most, it’s masturbation. When you tune into the discussion, it can get alarmingly serious. There are believers who stand on either side of the fence on this topic, but overwhelmingly within the Church, masturbation is considered off-limits. In a world of passionate forbiddance, I’d like to… Read more »
If you are married to an addict, it can be so easy to fall into an unhealthy cycle with your spouse. Addiction tends to do that. One partner struggles with the addiction and the other struggles to free them. Sometimes, you don’t even realize that it is happening until you are deep into it. I… Read more »
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