Father Richard Rohr has a book called Falling Upwards, and I love that title. Why? Because it just flips the whole “failure” thing on its head. “Failure” is a funny word. It seems to indicate that there is some standard that we are supposed to live up to, which in turn forces us to struggle… Read more »
Here at XXXchurch, we’ve always tried to be on the leading edge of what we talk about. But we also know that we aren’t the only ones trying to get people to freedom! And we’re excited about that. We know we don’t have all the answers. So when I come across something exciting and helpful,… Read more »
[Note: This month we will be sharing some free tips from our X3coaches. These guys have some great insight so please enjoy] When I meet a new guy who’s seeking freedom from porn and sex addiction, I ask a lot of questions. Questions like: > How’s your marriage and sex life? > When do you slip up… Read more »
As an interconnected people, we tend to place a very high value on that which others also place a high value. In fact, if two people believe strongly enough that the other likes something, they can be swayed into liking it also, even though deep down they both hate it. For the most part, we… Read more »
Over the years of talking about porn through XXXchurch, one of the big things we see, over and over, is people struggling with the idea that they’re alone in their pain. Maybe that’s you. Maybe you feel alone. Alone in your addiction. Maybe you feel helpless. Helpless to ever find freedom. Maybe you feel tired…. Read more »
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I remember a big day in my life. The day I bought my first iPhone. The iPhone 6, no less! Which isn’t really a big deal now since I officially have the “old” model. Regardless, I was very excited. My first iPhone. I’ve used Apple products before and in fact I am writing this on a MacBook… Read more »
“Accountability” is a tricky word. In many circles, it means, “I give you permission to tell me I suck.” I did a mini-poll once to see what people thought of the word “accountability” and the results were overwhelmingly negative. We tend not to like it. But the word “connection” is different. We like connection while… Read more »
A couple of years ago, Huffington Post published an article with this title: “5 Reasons Why Watching Porn Together Can Be Good For Your Relationship.” Their reasons? 1. It is a shared experience. 2. It’s an easy way to learn about your partner’s fantasies. 3. It can speed up foreplay. 4. It shatters the myth… Read more »
When I showed up to my first recovery group, I expected it to be like the MLB All-Star game. I just knew the other guys there were going to be so far ahead of me on their journey that I wouldn’t even fit in. What I soon discovered, though, was recovery is a lot more… Read more »
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In church and Christian culture, there are times when we are told that we do not have to be perfect to be loved or accepted, but let’s be honest—we rarely act like this is true. There is a real danger of becoming overpowered by fear. Whether it’s fear of not loving God enough, going to… Read more »