“Accountability” is a tricky word. In many circles, it means, “I give you permission to tell me I suck.” I did a mini-poll once to see what people thought of the word “accountability” and the results were overwhelmingly negative. We tend not to like it. But the word “connection” is different. We like connection while… Read more »
Author: <span class="vcard">Thomas Lanns</span>
A couple of years ago, Huffington Post published an article with this title: “5 Reasons Why Watching Porn Together Can Be Good For Your Relationship.” Their reasons? 1. It is a shared experience. 2. It’s an easy way to learn about your partner’s fantasies. 3. It can speed up foreplay. 4. It shatters the myth… Read more »
When I showed up to my first recovery group, I expected it to be like the MLB All-Star game. I just knew the other guys there were going to be so far ahead of me on their journey that I wouldn’t even fit in. What I soon discovered, though, was recovery is a lot more… Read more »
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In church and Christian culture, there are times when we are told that we do not have to be perfect to be loved or accepted, but let’s be honest—we rarely act like this is true. There is a real danger of becoming overpowered by fear. Whether it’s fear of not loving God enough, going to… Read more »
Writing a book on pornography was not on my to-do list when I was a student taking writing classes at community college. I was busier trying to hide my pornography addiction than being transparent and getting help for it, let alone writing about it. My curiosity spawned when I was exposed to pornography at a… Read more »
I’m not surprised that Jared was arrested for child pornography and pled guilty. I’m not surprised that Josh Duggar had an Ashley Madison account. I’m also not surprised that his admission of that only came after it was exposed online, and that it included a plea for prayer for his wife and family. I’m not… Read more »
As men and women our goal is to make our relationships with each other (especially marriages) as enriching as possible. But a common challenge we all face in making that happen is a mutual lack of understanding about how each other views and processes the world around us. This is why you probably have heard… Read more »
In the war between the world and sex, sex is the undisputed champ. (Tweet This!) And sex seems to be winning, especially when it comes to some of the head-scratching laws our country has designed around it. I’ve seen a few headlines lately that really have me wondering what is going on when it comes to… Read more »
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I recently came across two separate online posts stating that sex addiction was not a “true” addiction and should not be treated as such. Both pieces cited a recent UCLA study that compared the brainwaves of drug addicts to the brainwaves of “sex addicts” when both groups are exposed to images of their drugs of… Read more »
Anyone who’s ever taken the step of admitting they’re an addict knows what it’s like to have this nagging feeling that true freedom isn’t attainable. But if you’re open, you’ll find that there are people out there screaming from the mountaintops that they have found freedom. Sure, there are those who claim freedom, though they… Read more »